When my mother died, my husband felt very sad. Our acquaintances in the U.S did not even know whose mother actually died. We had to come to Nigeria for the burial. But on the day of the burial, the most shocking thing happened. My mother-in-law was conspicuously absent.
My friends and family could not believe it.Some people even said they sighted her in her shop early that morning, gorgeously dressed and attending to customers. They were therefore surprised that she did not show up at the burial.Later, a friend of mine, who my mother-in-law did not know, went to her shop and met her discussing with her very close friend.
After listening to their discussion, she came home to tell me that I should be careful with my mother-in-law. She quoted her as saying that she did not come for my mother’s burial because she could not pretend to be saddened by her death. She was even quoted as saying that now that my mother was dead, my husband follows her to heaven and continues to make her his mother.
That statement meant so much to me, so two days later, I went to a pastor and complained to her. She prayed and revealed that my mother-in-law and some others in her group were responsible for my mother’s death. I
would not have believed her, but for the fact that I had not said anything before she told me that. She went on to say that if I were not careful, I would soon die like my mother. She said the woman was very wicked and that she was ready to do anything to make sure that her son obeyed her only.
I left the woman’s place, partially convinced that what she had said was true. But I decided to behave as if I never heard it since there was no way I could confirm it. But I was shocked when my elder sister also came and said the same thing. She said the circumstances that surrounded my mother’s death made an aunt of mine to go in search of spiritual help.
She said my mother just shouted from her sleep that she had headache, and she died a few minutes later.My sister said she was there with my aunt when the spiritualist told her that my mother-in-law was responsible for our mother’s death.
I pretended as if I had never heard a similar story. I told God that since I was a Christian, He should never allow any evil to befall me in the course of fighting for my right.
My sister advised me to divorce my husband since I had only two children for him. She said it was better for me to do so early so that I could find another husband in good time. But I was not ready to marry two husbands. I told her to only pray for me.
Although my husband saw his mother, I went back to the U.S. without seeing her. I made efforts to see her, but I could not. We had barely spent a month in the US when my husband said he was going to Europe.
He said he would call me as soon as he got a line. But instead of Europe, he travelled to Lagos. I would not have known about it if a cousin of mine had not called me to say that she saw my husband and had thought that we came to Nigeria together before my younger sister told her that I was not around.
When I heard that my husband was in Nigeria and not Europe, I knew something was fishing. So, I travelled secretly to Lagos. This time, I picked a cab from the airport and headed straight home, without even alerting my close friend who had brought me home the first time.
When I got home, my husband was not there and everywhere was very quiet.I did not even see the security man, so I made for my room upstairs. What I saw almost made me to faint. Unknown to me, my husband had come for the christening of a set of twins another woman had for him.
This was apart from the one he threw a party for earlier. My mother-in-law was there, sitting with her on the bed and helping her to take care of one of the twins. That baby almost dropped from her hand when she looked up and saw that it was me.
I did not know whether to faint or die outright. All that had happened was too much for me to bear. And I could no longer cry to my mother.
The next thing my mother-in-law did was to put the baby on the bed and made to leave the room. I almost pulled her back forcibly when she reached the door, but for the grace of God.
I decided that I was not going to fight, but quietly drive my point home. So, I turned to Iya Ibeji (the mother of the twins) and told her that she should please leave my room and go to wherever she came from. But she also proved stubborn. She said she belonged there.
I told her to look at the wedding pictures on the wall and look at me again, for her to know I am the legally married wife. She did so, hissed and started to pack her things. Although I was glad she did that, I told myself that if I were in her shoes, I would not have moved an inch.
She had a driver, so she called him and within 30 minutes, they were all out of the premises. Immediately they left, my mother-in-law came and started shouting at me. She said there was no way a woman would come to her son’s house to control him; that his son could marry as many wives as he wanted.
I told her that she wanted to ruin his life like she ruined those of others. She grabbed me and said since I had started to abuse her; I should cap it with beating her up. It was her children that came and separated us.
My husband, knowing what had happened, refused to pick his calls or come home. I later learnt that he had gone with the woman to one of our houses in Lagos. When I complained to my sister, she said I should leave them alone so that they would not kill me. But I felt that if I did as my sister advised, it would amount to wasting all the efforts I have invested in my husband.
I was not ready to let another woman have the last laugh. But when I started falling ill and my husband did not show his face still, I had to think twice.One of our tenants called me and told me that I should seek spiritual help to my problem.
She said my mother-in-law would make the house so hot for me that I would pack out in a hurry. She said I should allow her to do whatever she liked with her son instead of exposing myself to danger.
Most of my friends have also been saying that the source of my husband’s sudden wealth is questionable and I should be careful with him. I have been back in the U.S for the past six months.
I am torn between keeping my marriage by staying neck-deep in trouble and leaving my husband and enjoying peace. He has called to beg me, but he says he does not have the guts to face me, which is why he has not joined me in the U.S.
Please,What should I do?
Friday, 27 April 2007
Wednesday, 25 April 2007
True life Story 1
A Friend begged me to post this cos she knows i blog...(am actually shedding tears now)
HER STORY
My husband was the first man in my life and we loved each other dearly even before we got married. I come from a fairly rich family, so my father could afford to send me to the United States of America for further learning after my first degree.
My husband finished from the same university I attended a year before me, and he was about rounding off his National Youth Service when I was leaving for the US. It was a tough decision for me to take because I was not sure I would still have him when I returned to Nigeria.
I finally made up my mind to go, but not until my people had agreed to a wedding date. I was to come back after four months for the wedding. We agreed that my father would arrange my husband’s trip to the US too, so that we would not stay apart, and that he did in a record time.
The wedding was a big one. His people had nothing, so we had to shoulder the responsibility of making it successful. I was responsible for everything his nuclear family used on that day, and they were grateful.
After the wedding, we travelled together to the U.S. I waited till I had finished my master’s programme before I got pregnant. All through that time, my husband remained the calm and loving guy I had met and married.
Then suddenly, God answered our prayers and everything changed for better. My husband met some of his schoolmates in the U.S and before I knew it, money started rolling in from everywhere.
I was happy, that at last, he was going to bail out his entire family from poverty. I also felt happy that I was instrumental to his breakthrough. He took very good care of my baby and me and also went home regularly to see his people.
His job would not allow for him to just sit back in the U.S. He travelled a lot to England and other countries.I had another child for him two years after the first one, and I did not suspect that he had changed from the man that I knew.
Three years after his status changed, a friend of mine called me and said I must take the next flight to Nigeria to see what my husband was doing behind my back. I did not take her serious at first. But when she said she would pay my fare to Nigeria, I knew she meant business.
She told me to come on a particular day, and said I must not let my husband or even my people know that I had plans to come to Nigeria.I took my children to a friend’s place so that I would be able to go to Nigeria as advised by my friend.
She was at the airport the day I arrived Nigeria to take me straight to our house in Lagos.
I asked her what the matter was. She said she had thought she should not tell me what it was until we got there, but on a second thought, she felt that if she did not,
I could faint by the time I saw what was happening. She told me that they were having a naming ceremony in our house in Lagos and that my mother-in-law sold Ankara to her friends and hired a band.To say I was surprised would be an understatement. I was dumbfounded.
However, I promised my friend that I would just walk in like a guest and leave them to their conscience. But when I got there, I could not. I went straight into our bedroom and found the mother of the baby there changing her clothes in the presence of some of her friends.
My friend was following me to prevent me from doing anything rash, but she was not close enough. I grabbed the woman and dragged her out of the room, cursing on top of my voice as I did so.My husband came and started begging.
He prostrated and said I should not put him to shame, but I told him that the U.S police would soon come after him. I demanded that he sent the woman and her people out of the house immediately. When he was not doing so, I ran to the kitchen and took a knife.
Immediately, he sent them and the baby out.When the fight was over, I sat down on the bed and cried. My friend could not leave me alone because she did not know what could happen next. It was very difficult for me to bear such, but my husband was so remorseful that I did not know what to do.
I had thought it was the end of our relationship but he begged that he did not know what went over him.I was to spend only one week in Nigeria, so two days after that incident, I went to my parents’ house to let them know I was around and to tell my mother what happened despite the fact that my husband begged me not to.
I felt that if I did not tell her, I would be doing myself more harm. She screamed when I told her what happened and told me to tell my husband to see her.My husband respected my parents very much, so he went to see her immediately. I was there also.
My mother talked to him like her son and he started crying. He said he did not really understand how all that happened and that it was as if he was under a spell.
On that note, we both left for the U.S. All attempts to see my mother-in-law proved abortive. My friend said it could be that she could not face me after all that happened that day.
When we got back to the US, my husband kept to his promise to be a good husband. He refused to see the woman again and only sent money for the upkeep of her baby. But his mother was not happy.
She called him one day and started saying all sorts of things on the phone. She did not know that I was the one that had picked the receiver, so she started saying that he was not meant for one woman only, that he was going to marry the woman that bore him a son whether he liked it or not. She said she knew that my parents and I had charmed him and that before long, he would see her handiwork.
She said any mother that did not want her to reap the fruit of her labour in respect of her son would die untimely. She said she knew that my husband had made my mother his mother, and that she would make sure that she corrected that.
That day, I just dropped the phone without letting her know that she had been talking to the wrong person. I wondered how the woman could change so much overnight. The same woman that almost cursed herself as she prayed for me the day my father got my husband a visa.
The woman who promised to fight tooth and nail to make sure I reaped the fruit of my labour. I was crying when my husband came in. He asked what happened and I told him. He said she was just being a woman and that I should not mind her.
But deep down in me, I knew I was in for real trouble.Two months after that, we heard the shocking news that my beloved mother had died.............
Watch out for the concluding part of this intriguing story.
HER STORY
My husband was the first man in my life and we loved each other dearly even before we got married. I come from a fairly rich family, so my father could afford to send me to the United States of America for further learning after my first degree.
My husband finished from the same university I attended a year before me, and he was about rounding off his National Youth Service when I was leaving for the US. It was a tough decision for me to take because I was not sure I would still have him when I returned to Nigeria.
I finally made up my mind to go, but not until my people had agreed to a wedding date. I was to come back after four months for the wedding. We agreed that my father would arrange my husband’s trip to the US too, so that we would not stay apart, and that he did in a record time.
The wedding was a big one. His people had nothing, so we had to shoulder the responsibility of making it successful. I was responsible for everything his nuclear family used on that day, and they were grateful.
After the wedding, we travelled together to the U.S. I waited till I had finished my master’s programme before I got pregnant. All through that time, my husband remained the calm and loving guy I had met and married.
Then suddenly, God answered our prayers and everything changed for better. My husband met some of his schoolmates in the U.S and before I knew it, money started rolling in from everywhere.
I was happy, that at last, he was going to bail out his entire family from poverty. I also felt happy that I was instrumental to his breakthrough. He took very good care of my baby and me and also went home regularly to see his people.
His job would not allow for him to just sit back in the U.S. He travelled a lot to England and other countries.I had another child for him two years after the first one, and I did not suspect that he had changed from the man that I knew.
Three years after his status changed, a friend of mine called me and said I must take the next flight to Nigeria to see what my husband was doing behind my back. I did not take her serious at first. But when she said she would pay my fare to Nigeria, I knew she meant business.
She told me to come on a particular day, and said I must not let my husband or even my people know that I had plans to come to Nigeria.I took my children to a friend’s place so that I would be able to go to Nigeria as advised by my friend.
She was at the airport the day I arrived Nigeria to take me straight to our house in Lagos.
I asked her what the matter was. She said she had thought she should not tell me what it was until we got there, but on a second thought, she felt that if she did not,
I could faint by the time I saw what was happening. She told me that they were having a naming ceremony in our house in Lagos and that my mother-in-law sold Ankara to her friends and hired a band.To say I was surprised would be an understatement. I was dumbfounded.
However, I promised my friend that I would just walk in like a guest and leave them to their conscience. But when I got there, I could not. I went straight into our bedroom and found the mother of the baby there changing her clothes in the presence of some of her friends.
My friend was following me to prevent me from doing anything rash, but she was not close enough. I grabbed the woman and dragged her out of the room, cursing on top of my voice as I did so.My husband came and started begging.
He prostrated and said I should not put him to shame, but I told him that the U.S police would soon come after him. I demanded that he sent the woman and her people out of the house immediately. When he was not doing so, I ran to the kitchen and took a knife.
Immediately, he sent them and the baby out.When the fight was over, I sat down on the bed and cried. My friend could not leave me alone because she did not know what could happen next. It was very difficult for me to bear such, but my husband was so remorseful that I did not know what to do.
I had thought it was the end of our relationship but he begged that he did not know what went over him.I was to spend only one week in Nigeria, so two days after that incident, I went to my parents’ house to let them know I was around and to tell my mother what happened despite the fact that my husband begged me not to.
I felt that if I did not tell her, I would be doing myself more harm. She screamed when I told her what happened and told me to tell my husband to see her.My husband respected my parents very much, so he went to see her immediately. I was there also.
My mother talked to him like her son and he started crying. He said he did not really understand how all that happened and that it was as if he was under a spell.
On that note, we both left for the U.S. All attempts to see my mother-in-law proved abortive. My friend said it could be that she could not face me after all that happened that day.
When we got back to the US, my husband kept to his promise to be a good husband. He refused to see the woman again and only sent money for the upkeep of her baby. But his mother was not happy.
She called him one day and started saying all sorts of things on the phone. She did not know that I was the one that had picked the receiver, so she started saying that he was not meant for one woman only, that he was going to marry the woman that bore him a son whether he liked it or not. She said she knew that my parents and I had charmed him and that before long, he would see her handiwork.
She said any mother that did not want her to reap the fruit of her labour in respect of her son would die untimely. She said she knew that my husband had made my mother his mother, and that she would make sure that she corrected that.
That day, I just dropped the phone without letting her know that she had been talking to the wrong person. I wondered how the woman could change so much overnight. The same woman that almost cursed herself as she prayed for me the day my father got my husband a visa.
The woman who promised to fight tooth and nail to make sure I reaped the fruit of my labour. I was crying when my husband came in. He asked what happened and I told him. He said she was just being a woman and that I should not mind her.
But deep down in me, I knew I was in for real trouble.Two months after that, we heard the shocking news that my beloved mother had died.............
Watch out for the concluding part of this intriguing story.
FUNNY
I got this in my mail.......
Time for some male bashing..... (For a change)...
Q: What is the difference between men and puppies
A: Puppies grow up.
Q: Why do men always have a stupid look on their faces?
A: Because they are...
Q: What do men have in common with ceramic tiles?
A: Fix them properly once and you can walk all over them forever.
Q: If you drop a man and a brick out of a plane, which one would hit the ground first?
A: Who cares?????.....
Q: What did God say after he created man?
A: I can do better than this! And then he created woman!!!.
Q: What's the difference between an intelligent man and a UFO?
A: I don't know, I've never seen either.
Q: What are two reasons why men don't mind their own business?
A: i) no mind ii) no business
Q: Why did Moses wander in the desert for 40 years?
A: Because even back then men wouldn't ask for directions.
Q: What is the difference between men and pigs?
A: Pigs don't turn into men when they drink...
Q: What makes men chase women they have no intention of marrying?
A: The same urge that makes dogs chase vehicles they have no intention of driving.
Q: What do you do with a man who thinks he's God's gift?
A: Exchange him!!
Q: Why do men like smart women?
A: Opposites attract.
Q: Why do little boys whine?
A: They are practicing to be men.
Q: What does it mean when a man is in your bed gasping for breath and calling your name?
A: You did not hold the pillow down long enough.
Q: Why do female black widow spiders kill their males after mating?
A: To stop the snoring before it starts.
Q: Why do men whistle when they are sitting on the toilet?
A: It helps them remember which end they need to wipe.
Q: What is the difference between men and women?
A: A woman wants one man to satisfy her every need. A man wants every woman to satisfy his one need.
Q: How do you keep your husband from reading your e-mail?
A: Rename the mail folder "Instruction Manuals"
Enjoy the rest of your week.
Time for some male bashing..... (For a change)...
Q: What is the difference between men and puppies
A: Puppies grow up.
Q: Why do men always have a stupid look on their faces?
A: Because they are...
Q: What do men have in common with ceramic tiles?
A: Fix them properly once and you can walk all over them forever.
Q: If you drop a man and a brick out of a plane, which one would hit the ground first?
A: Who cares?????.....
Q: What did God say after he created man?
A: I can do better than this! And then he created woman!!!.
Q: What's the difference between an intelligent man and a UFO?
A: I don't know, I've never seen either.
Q: What are two reasons why men don't mind their own business?
A: i) no mind ii) no business
Q: Why did Moses wander in the desert for 40 years?
A: Because even back then men wouldn't ask for directions.
Q: What is the difference between men and pigs?
A: Pigs don't turn into men when they drink...
Q: What makes men chase women they have no intention of marrying?
A: The same urge that makes dogs chase vehicles they have no intention of driving.
Q: What do you do with a man who thinks he's God's gift?
A: Exchange him!!
Q: Why do men like smart women?
A: Opposites attract.
Q: Why do little boys whine?
A: They are practicing to be men.
Q: What does it mean when a man is in your bed gasping for breath and calling your name?
A: You did not hold the pillow down long enough.
Q: Why do female black widow spiders kill their males after mating?
A: To stop the snoring before it starts.
Q: Why do men whistle when they are sitting on the toilet?
A: It helps them remember which end they need to wipe.
Q: What is the difference between men and women?
A: A woman wants one man to satisfy her every need. A man wants every woman to satisfy his one need.
Q: How do you keep your husband from reading your e-mail?
A: Rename the mail folder "Instruction Manuals"
Enjoy the rest of your week.
Friday, 20 April 2007
Its all about LOVE
Please check this out..
My friend Purple(her best colour ) is confused.... really, i appreciate the fact that people come to me for advice, but wetin i sabi sef.... no one knows it all.
Here is her story,
She's 28+ and she's been single for a while, her mum has been on her neck to hurry up and introduce a guy to them cos she's the only one left, her younger sister just got married in February.
Fast Forward
She met Ope, a 37 year old guy in January, and they've been going out for a while just to please her mum( meanwhile, her elder sister, LOLA(32 years) is really not keen about this relationhip cos Ope is older than her.
Fast forward
Purple just met a guy, AKIN, three weeks ago, and she thinks this is it.. she's really in love with the guy... he's also 28+(a month older than my friend)..~AKIN is in love too, at least i met him when he brought purple to my house.
Now she needs me to advice her on what to do cos she wants to tell OPE off and doesnt know how without hurting him
AKIN is likely to propose soon( he's called me in confidence to arrange a surprise party for my friend, that he wants to propose by giving her a promise ring).
OPE is in Nigeria presently and is due back in May... please how do we go about it cos really she's been heart broken several times and i dont want her to lose this chance
HAVE a great weekend y'all.
My friend Purple(her best colour ) is confused.... really, i appreciate the fact that people come to me for advice, but wetin i sabi sef.... no one knows it all.
Here is her story,
She's 28+ and she's been single for a while, her mum has been on her neck to hurry up and introduce a guy to them cos she's the only one left, her younger sister just got married in February.
Fast Forward
She met Ope, a 37 year old guy in January, and they've been going out for a while just to please her mum( meanwhile, her elder sister, LOLA(32 years) is really not keen about this relationhip cos Ope is older than her.
Fast forward
Purple just met a guy, AKIN, three weeks ago, and she thinks this is it.. she's really in love with the guy... he's also 28+(a month older than my friend)..~AKIN is in love too, at least i met him when he brought purple to my house.
Now she needs me to advice her on what to do cos she wants to tell OPE off and doesnt know how without hurting him
AKIN is likely to propose soon( he's called me in confidence to arrange a surprise party for my friend, that he wants to propose by giving her a promise ring).
OPE is in Nigeria presently and is due back in May... please how do we go about it cos really she's been heart broken several times and i dont want her to lose this chance
HAVE a great weekend y'all.
Tuesday, 17 April 2007
AFFECTIONS
Hi peeps,
To those of u that was at the FOL, please get back to me with the prophesies oh.. i need to tap into the anointing.... I couldn't make it cos i had to be at work...
Anyways, please i need ur help oh.......In your own words, What do u understand by AFFECTION?( of course, i know.. but i need more from u....)
Y?, ok.i'll let u into it...
I got a call from my Friend's husband that his wife doesnt show him much affections and he's tired, he wants me to talk to her before he goes looking for it elsewhere..., my dear, ko easy oh., so thats why i need you(my family) to help out, so i can compile and tell her.
Get back to me oh or else....
To those of u that was at the FOL, please get back to me with the prophesies oh.. i need to tap into the anointing.... I couldn't make it cos i had to be at work...
Anyways, please i need ur help oh.......In your own words, What do u understand by AFFECTION?( of course, i know.. but i need more from u....)
Y?, ok.i'll let u into it...
I got a call from my Friend's husband that his wife doesnt show him much affections and he's tired, he wants me to talk to her before he goes looking for it elsewhere..., my dear, ko easy oh., so thats why i need you(my family) to help out, so i can compile and tell her.
Get back to me oh or else....
Tuesday, 10 April 2007
Apologies
Hey peeps..
I have really missed my blogville family...
How have you all been, hope u had a wonderful Easter break... No mind AOL jare, i was disconnected for some time but Thank God its all sorted out.
Will be back later in the week for great gists.
Have a lovely week.
I have really missed my blogville family...
How have you all been, hope u had a wonderful Easter break... No mind AOL jare, i was disconnected for some time but Thank God its all sorted out.
Will be back later in the week for great gists.
Have a lovely week.
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