Tuesday, 17 April 2007

AFFECTIONS

Hi peeps,

To those of u that was at the FOL, please get back to me with the prophesies oh.. i need to tap into the anointing.... I couldn't make it cos i had to be at work...

Anyways, please i need ur help oh.......In your own words, What do u understand by AFFECTION?( of course, i know.. but i need more from u....)

Y?, ok.i'll let u into it...

I got a call from my Friend's husband that his wife doesnt show him much affections and he's tired, he wants me to talk to her before he goes looking for it elsewhere..., my dear, ko easy oh., so thats why i need you(my family) to help out, so i can compile and tell her.

Get back to me oh or else....

14 comments:

Ugo Daniels said...

Affection is when a woman looks neat, takes care of her self, waits on her husband, keeps da house clean, is very respetful, charming and accomodating, overlooks faults and always give him something sweet to remember, every night!

And not forgetting the eveergreen cooks delicious meals, cos the way to a mans heart is thru his stomach or...d**k (u tel me...LOL)

ExcitedJade said...

@ ugo.. thanks, but the husband says she does all that( cooks, keeps the house clean,takes care of the family... but i think the "koko" be the main thing... thanks jare for being the first.

LondonBuki said...

Exactly... I think he means she does not "give him some" everytime he wants it. And even if she does, maybe he doesn't enjoy what she's doing....

Moments said...

LB I think you kind of nailed it on da head. The woman isn't giving it to her hubby real good. Maybe there are thingshe wants her to do that she's not doing.
Better ask her and make sure she tells you and advise her well because exactly what the guys is going to do is what he's told you. He's even been nice and loves his wofe to have come to you, I think she should take it seriously cos once he stops talking about it, then he done dey see outside be that o!!

meanwhile best friends 3 is out o!!

law_damsel said...

he he he..LB... U BE THERAPIST?? LOLLLL

Favoured Girl said...

I think he should be discussing such a matter with his wife and not someone else, but anyways....

He needs to have a talk with his wife and spell out clearly to her what he needs that he is not getting. More sex? More hugs? Better meals? A massage when he comes back from work? What exactly does he mean by "affection"? He should not be afraid to ask. Perhaps he should show her more love and then she will reciprocate?
He should approach the topic in a non-accusatory way so that she doesn't get defensive. Perhaps they both need to read the book: "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman. It's been a great help to hubby and I.

Favoured Girl said...
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Favoured Girl said...

Sorry I had to add:

@Ugo- Affection means different things to different people. What you define as affection may be completely different from what Excitedjade's friend thinks. It's up to both parties in the relationship to understand each other's needs and respond to it.

Afrik said...

i think everyone has contrubuted to what it means to show affection. I can also see affection as a way of pampering someone,making dem feel loved. Dis is not pampering dem when they do something wrong, but i dnt know if u grab my point.

ExcitedJade said...

THANK YOU ALL FOR UR COMMENTS.
@ fAVOUREDGIRL... I REALLY APPRECIATE THAT,
NOW I KNOW WHAT I CAN TELL HER

HAVE A GREAT WEEKEND Y'ALL.

Annoyed Anonymous said...

I think the guy already has intentions to CHEAT! From what you've said, he is already considering the possibility of cheating on his wife. He should be ashamed of himself. Why should he ask you to talk to his wife for him? Who should know his wife better than him? Is he afraid of her? The guy is a goat. He is just looking for an excuse. So that when he is caught cheating, he can say that it is because the wife didn't show him affection! NONSENSE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Moments said...

Ahn ahn... annoyed anon: haba it's not fight now??? I don't think the matter has reached that level. I guess the guy's just trying to emphasise the intensity of his seriousness to excitedjade. Anyway, I believe all will be well. All relationships needs working at and we aren't all perfect so we just have to keep trying an making adjustments not accusations.

Meanwhile excitedjade... Best Friends grand finale is out ooo.. catch you when you get there :-))

BabsBETA said...

Anonymous and Favoured girl, I feel you guys. As a man I think I'll rather discuss this with my wife since I am the one with the need and no one else can explain in clearer terms my definition of affection.

Also no man (Yes no man) should threaten a man with cheating. If he's crossed that bridge in his mind then.....

~Mimi~ said...

my first time here.......i like your questions, they ar funny..lol...like the sharp mouth-blunt one..

anyway, i am in tune with Favoured Girl here o, he should not be discussing such matters with you... it is obvious he and his wife lack intimacy that he cannot tell her, that he has to tell u to tell her......so they first need to sort out their intimacy...for all u know, his wife doesnt even know that he is missing out on anything in their relationship...
so u should tell him that he should really be discussing such matters with his wife and not you... and that one that he will go and find it elsewhere..thats just rubbish talk!is he making excuses for the future?